We walk through our lives trying to be the prefect, refined versions of ourselves. We live our lives trying to emulate the best qualities of the people we are inspired by. We are taught right from the beginning that apathy, selfishness, disrespect, unkindness and hatred, among other things are not the traits of a virtuous person. Most of our conscious life, we discipline ourselves into being an honourable person. We all strive to be good.
But I have seen (and experienced) this one thing that, without a moment’s notice, vaporizes all the goodness in us and brings out our worst. Anger. I hate anger maybe even more than I hate lying. Anger in any and every form is hurtful. I live in close proximity of a very hot-headed person. That person and their anger is the sole reason I’ve learnt to keep my temper in check, to the point of now coming across as passive. This person’s anger has become so palpable over the years that I now dread staying in the same room as them when I sense their foul mood. This temper has caused a lot of pain. And this pain has scarred not just me but others too, emotionally and (unfortunately) permanently. There was a time when I think I cared about this person. But, that was many disrupted years ago.
Everybody gets angry. But acting on it, letting it guide your tongue and holding on to it, is what makes it bring out our lowest, ugliest and most uncivilized, self- introducing us to a person inside we didn’t even know existed. We’ve all either been there or seen that. Some of us even know how horrible it is to live with the trepidation of encountering it, every day. So, here’s my message to all the angry people- you’ll lose the love, trust and respect, of the people you care about, if you don’t consciously make an effort to keep your anger under control. It’s one of those habits that only get worse with time and age. Don’t let the day come when you have to wake up to the realization that you’ve driven everybody away and you’re all alone.